The first choice is whether or not to involve anyone at all in your life. If you're intrigued by the Personal Safety Nets® ideas, you've probably already decided to risk interdependence, even if somewhat informally. Acting on this would be to make it clear whom you're including. This first connection is to people.

1. Choose three primary people.
2. Talk to them about their being chosen.
3. Let them know how to reach each other and you're well on your way!

A second connection is of information. This step is to keep team members, at least a select few, up-to-date on what's important and going on in your life. When people care about you, have chosen to be a part of your life, and are members of your safety net they want to know the nitty-gritty. For example, three key things from my (John Gibson's) life that capture what's important and going on for me are:

* I continue to live and work 3/5ths time in Seattle, WA and 2/5ths time in Sun Valley, Idaho.
* My latest - every 3 months - blood work at the Seattle Cancer Care Alliance indicates no further treatments or major concerns at this time.
* I am joyfully pursuing Ball Room Dancing 3-5 nights a week.

Choose to keep your safety net members informed and up-to-date in both large and small ways. Then they'll have a platform from which to respond if some sort of need arises. (For me it might be a resurgence of my cancer). Let them know today about you! And ask about them in return - with curiosity and openness.