Great question! Let's turn to why we help others. Being part of a personal safety net helps replace fear and isolation with security and connection, and affirms that interdependence and community are stronger than isolated independence. Your reaching out not only shows kindness, but also provides a true link and connection to a larger community - a way for others  to know they are not alone in their quest for help and solutions.

Your cautious feelings about intruding are shared by many. Our hope is that you'll push past them as you think about roles and motivations. Are you actually being nosey? If so, backing off is probably good. Do you truly want to reach out. Last month we suggested that you keep handy a list of things you do well and like to do - offer one or more of these. Our workbook presents a similar list of things you might also receive were the tables turned! Lastly, consider whether you have time to react out in any fashion. Remember that you can't give from an empty cup - so keep yours filled. Kindness, needs to be both given and received.  

While some may not specifically thank you or know how to appreciate your help, your actions will speak louder than words. Kindness is understood and appreciated - even if not expressed. (Of course, a nice note to those who join a safety net goes a long way.)